Wednesday, December 3, 2014

Insecure Writer: the fragile writing bubble

The first Wednesday of the month
 is time for Insecure Writers Support Group,
hosted by Alex Cavanaugh and his
excellent team. 
Usually when it comes to writing, my “fragile writing bubble” is protecting my precious time set aside for writing and trying not to let anything get in the way. Fortunately for this year’s NaNoWriMo, I was able to protect my writing time (for the most part) and even though I have become the SLOWEST writer among all the other writers I did word wars and word sprints with (I only averaged about 600 words per hour!) I did manage to get my 50,000 words – by the barest possible margin and by almost completely isolating myself after Thanksgiving dinner and the last three days of November.

When I emerged from NaNoWriMo and rejoined the real world, I was ready to get out of my writing bubble and I have a real life again. It’s good to have a social life again (though my version of a social life is probably a lot different, ahem, slimmer, than average).

I was thankful for a quiet, no-travel Thanksgiving this year so I could concentrate on my writing, but I was looking forward to having a bunch of  extended family come visit us for Christmas, but yesterday both families called and canceled. I’m so sad! Family is precious to me, and after having a really low-key Thanksgiving I really wanted to have a big family Christmas. I don’t know all the details about why they canceled and my fears are that it was a lot to do with my husband’s mom having died earlier this year. She was kind of the “glue” that held the family together, and now that she’s gone I worry that everyone is going to go their own way or maybe they want to stick together, but right now it’s still too painful with the recent loss?

I  have a new perspective on my fragile writing bubble, after having protected it so carefully this past month and now…well…sort of wishing I hadn’t been so protective…wishing maybe we’d tried to go visit our extended family for Thanksgiving or invited more to come here.


It’s so hard to find a balance with the writing life and the rest of life.

14 comments:

  1. I made 50,000 words this year too! But like you I'm ready to get out of the writing bubble and join the real world. I'm going to take some time off though, and then jump back into editing maybe at the end of December. Congrats on getting your 50,000!

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  2. Congratulations on all those word wars and word sprints! I soooooo must try those.

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    1. Word sprints are great -- when you're in the mood! I tend to only get "into" them during NaNo.

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  3. Congrats for finishing! Sometimes I think slow is better. I find when I slow down I don't have as many revisions (usually).

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    1. I go back and forth.. sometimes I think slow is better (less revising) but other times I think fast is better (more exciting ideas! Lets my characters really take off on their own and develop faster!)

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  4. Yeh for you on winning NaNo! I love that writing bubble. Sometimes I wish I could stay in it all the time. :)

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    1. I know, I'd like to be in the bubble more, too, but the more I get to be in the bubble the harder it is when it bursts :)

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  5. Good for you, completing NaNo. Sorry about your Christmas plans falling through, though. Your feelings about over-protecting your writing bubble remind me of some things Steven Pressfield says in The War of Art, about how when we begin to see victories in our creative life, other parts of life will try to convince us it was wrong of us to have spent so many hours creating. But creativity is soul work, despite how it can sometimes be perceived as something we do "for fun."

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    1. Thank you so much, this is what I needed to hear! I think I need to read the War of Art.

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  6. Congratulations on winning NaNo this year! I made it to just over 34k words this year, but I'm ok with that now. I'm sorry about your loss and Christmas family plans falling through. Hopefully future Christmases with relatives will be better. Thanks for participating this month. Eva, IWSG Co-host

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  7. Congrats. Make sure you look around the winners circle for your prizes. :-)

    Anna from Shout with Emaginette

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  8. Congratulations on your NaNoWriMo win!
    Haven't participated in NaNo...yet.
    When it comes to writing speed, I'm almost certain that I am THE SLOWEST writer...that's why the thought of doing NaNo terrifies me.

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  9. Congratulations on getting through NaNoWriMo and winning!
    I'm sorry to hear about your husband's mom, and I hope that there will still be opportunities for you to connect with family in the near future.

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